The Rhythm of Life; What Are You Waiting For?

"The Rhythm of Life," by Matthew Kelly in my opinion embodies the concept and the mission of a Total Soulful Journey, which is to AWAKEN, INSPIRE AND EMPOWER YOU TO BECOME THE BEST VERSION OF YOURSELF. This is one of the most powerful books that I have read. Although the author's answers to life’s mysteries seem obvious at times, we can all relate to them. The book begins by stating that life is a series of choices. Choices in the food we consume, in love, in fear, in anger, in what we wear, where we live... Every choice we make either leads us closer to our destiny or draws us back from our goals. But, what are your goals and what is your life’s mission? Many do not know, and that is OK, but we must always dream really really big, because as Matthew Kelly says, “Dreams foster hope, and hope is one of the forces by which men and women live.” Each choice we make designs the tapestry of our life.

  When we challenge ourselves we grow. When we seek safty over trying new things in life we risk becoming stagnant. Somewhere in between we find balance.

When we challenge ourselves we grow. When we seek safty over trying new things in life we risk becoming stagnant. Somewhere in between we find balance.

We were all born with special gifts or talents, and with a purpose. Some people find their purpose early in life and for many it takes years and years. What is your story? When I first started working with Avon, leading yoga and meditation at corporate events, they explained that they believe everyone has a story. Matthew Kelly repeats that same sentiment because it is true. You are the author and the architect of your life. If you do not like the direction your story is going, make different choices, write a new chapter, add or delete characters, and yell plot twist! Matthew Kelly says with conviction, “For the day we accept that we have chosen to choose our choices is the day we cast off the shackles of victimhood and are free to pursue the lives we were born to live.” Take a minute and reread that quote. Then pause and reflect.

Do you know what you want in life? Do you know your purpose? Our true purpose in the deepest sense is to become the best version of ourselves. We cannot do this by “supersizing” meals, by giving up when the going gets tough, or by walking away from meaningful relationships when there is a bump in the road. In this book Matthew Kelly explains accurately that "there are four aspects to the human person: physical, emotional, intellectual, and spiritual.” When the needs of all four aspects are met we are whole and therefore happy. The key is to recharge your batteries so to speak by living with purpose. Do what matters to you, give to others, devote time to your spirituality and let your actions be fueled by your purpose.

 
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Why do we start projects that we do not finish? The books explains that “there is a crisis of committment in our society.” We fail to commit to our marriages (according to the American Psychological Association 50%, so one of every two marriages end in divorce), our jobs, and ultimately to commit to ourselves because our vision is unclear when it comes to what our dreams truly are. Without a clear vision we are unable to make choices each day that lead us on the path toward our big goals. Draw a hypothetical map of where you want to go in life. Visualize yourself accomplishing your dreams. Feel yourself there rather than worrying about how to get there. Now, imagine which roads will get you there faster and listen to the voice within, your intuition. 

 
For the most part, we are too busy doing just about everything that means just about nothing, to just about nobody, just about anywhere. . . and it will mean even less to anyone a hundred years from now!
— Matthew Kelly
 

We walk a fine line between our need for challenges in our lives and our need to remain safe. Staying safe leads to stagnation, while welcoming the challenges that life offers leads to our personal growth. Live passionately and pursue the things that set your soul on fire. We were not born to merely survive, but to thrive. We have legitimate needs to satisfy all four aspects of our life including connection with others, the need to be fully accepted, the need for intimacy, the need for answers (all of which are already within us), and the need to be heard and understood rather than “fixed." 

  We all have a need for connection, acceptance, intimacy and to be heard. Photo by Paul Garrett

We all have a need for connection, acceptance, intimacy and to be heard. Photo by Paul Garrett

Take time to slow down and find silence. Just as the body needs periods of rest to recharge and repair, the mind requires silence for clarity to emerge. Mindfulness and meditation will help you to find your purpose and to visualize your dreams. 

Five Rules for Obtaining the Life of Your Dreams:

  1. Set reasonable goals, some small and some big.
  2. Be disciplined.
  3. Let purpose drive your actions.
  4. Fill yourself with gratitude and give thanks multiple times daily.
  5. Visualize your goals and yourself accomplishing those goals.

Personal development should be a priority in your life. We must stop glamorizing the overly busy world. Our health, which includes all four aspects that I spoke of earlier, is our wealth. As Matthew Kelly says, “the greatest barrier to loving people, to cherishing people, and to accepting people is our inability to see ourselves in them. Take a closer look. We are one.” The sooner you can recognize your oneness with the universe, the sooner you will obtain your goals and dreams and watch the stress and anxiety fade away. Again, I repeat, you were not born to merely survive, you were born to THRIVE! Live the life of love and happiness that you deserve. Give love, be loved, be LOVE. 

Blessings,

Libby

P.S. -  This is an online book club. We would love to hear your thoughts and questions about "The Rhythm of Life." Tell us your favorite parts and how they relate to your life. Also let us know if you have any requests or suggestions for our upcoming books.


Coming up on the blog for Tuesday, Paul will have a very informative post for you called, "The Power of Belief." From our health, to our finances, to our relationships, what we THINK becomes our reality. You won't want to miss this thought provoking article!.


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A First Timer's Guide to the Island of Kauai

Have you ever visited a place and it instantly felt like home? Some places have a special energy that resonates with our hearts. Hawaii is that kind of place to me. A few weeks ago I returned to Kauai for the third time with my daughter for a vacation. I have been to the Hawaiian Islands twelve times. Each island is special and offers unique beauty and opportunities. If you have never been to Hawaii, Maui will give you the quintessential island and beach experience. If, however, you really want to kick back and chill out, Kauai may be the place for you...

 Sunset at the St. Regis Princeville Resort is incredible. Photography by Paul Garrett

Sunset at the St. Regis Princeville Resort is incredible. Photography by Paul Garrett

Kauai offers a slower pace of life than Maui or Oahu. Perhaps it’s because there are fewer big resort hotels and a smaller population on this island. Kauai is also the wettest of all of the islands, which can be an issue if you vacation here during the autumn, winter or spring. The upside of the rain, however, is fewer people and the amazing lush plant life on the north shore of the island that will make you think of Jurassic Park. Don't be turned away by the chance of rain. Poipu and the western end of the island receive plenty of sunshine throughout the year.

If you read my last post, you know that I booked my vacation through Costco Travel and stayed at the Westin Princeville Ocean Resort Villas. My daughter and I loved the relaxing vibe of this wonderful resort. It’s a beautiful place that is upscale without being formal. In other words, nobody minds if you wear shorts and flip-flops to the restaurant for breakfast. I have a rule when I land in Hawaii, no shoes if I can help it while I am there, lol.

  The Westin Princeville Ocean Villas Resort photographed by Paul Garrett

The Westin Princeville Ocean Villas Resort photographed by Paul Garrett

My Favorite Beaches

Let’s talk about my favorite things, beaches, food and activities. About a week before we arrived, the north shore of Kauai suffered a devastating flood that left the small town of Hanalei under two feet of water, destroyed some homes and swept away vehicles. The good news is that Hanalei was looking pretty good by the time that we arrived and the restaurants and shops were back in business. Unfortunately the road from Hanalei to the Na Pali Coast was still closed due to landslides. My daughter and I were looking forward to hiking the Kalalau Trail and to snorkeling at Ke’e Beach and Tunnels Beach, but we were not able to access these beautiful places. I have been there in the past and I highly recommend them. 

  Flood Damage in Hanalei. Photography by Paul Garrett

Flood Damage in Hanalei. Photography by Paul Garrett

Hideaway Beach

One of the lesser known gems that we enjoyed is called Hideaway Beach in Princeville. The trailhead to this secluded beach is located just before the gatehouse to the St. Regis Princeville Resort. It is rarely crowed because there are only around eight public parking spaces for it, plus you have to hike down a steep muddy trail to get to this beach. Once you are there you will enjoy the solitude of this small strip of soft sand and the beautiful view across Hanalei Bay. There was only one other couple there during our visit and they were snorkeling the entire time. Remember to arrive here early if you want to get a coveted parking space. You will also want to wear shoes, because you will otherwise slip out of your flip-flops on the way down. To get to the trail walk between the fence that faces the parking lot and the fenced in tennis court.

Secret Beach

My next favorite beach on this trip is aptly named, Secret Beach. It is also located on the north shore. The turn off for it is Kalihiwai Road between the Kilauea Lighthouse and Anini Beach Park. Once you turn off of route 56 onto Kilihiwai Road, take a right onto the first dirt road (not driveway) that you come to. Drive to the end of the dirt road and park off to the side. There is a public trial that will lead you between two houses and down to the beach. It’s a 10 to 15 minute hike and we were able to do in wearing our Locals (flip-flops). The beach is beautiful and has wonderful sand. Be careful, however, because the waves and undercurrents are strong here. I only saw experienced swimmers and surfers go into the water. Most people were just soaking up the sun and the beauty of this location from the safety of  the beach.

  Secret Beach Photographed by Paul Garrett

Secret Beach Photographed by Paul Garrett

Poipu Beach

Another wonderful beach is Poipu Beach on the south side of the island. This beach has something for everyone, including a semi protected area for kids and a lifeguard station. You can also take surfing lessons from local businesses such as Nukumoi Surf Shop, which is across the street from Poipu Beach Park. This is a very popular beach and there is plenty of public parking in the area.

  PoiPu Beach photographed by Paul Garrett

PoiPu Beach photographed by Paul Garrett

Another notable beach in the area is called Shipwreck Beach. Drive east of Poipu on Poipu Road and turn right at the first road on the far side of the Grand Hyatt Resort and Spa. There is a public parking lot at the end of this road by the beach. You will see lots of surfers here if the waves are good. Beware, however, there are lots of rocks at the shoreline where you access the beach. To avoid the rocks, go to the beach in front of the Hyatt. After your swim there is an outdoor shower near the parking lot where you can rinse off.

  Shipwreck Beach Photographed by Paul Garrett

Shipwreck Beach Photographed by Paul Garrett

Favorite Eats on a Budget

The food scene has grown a lot since my first visit to Kauai and this is great news. Thanks to the advent of food carts, there are now many new and yummy places to eat on a budget.

Budget Food in Hanalei

There are two food cart areas that we visited in Hanalei. Our first full day on the island we went to Fresh Bite for wraps. They feature a fresh and original combination organic ingredients and flavors, and the service was super friendly. I had the Buddha wrap and enjoyed the crispness of the veggies. This wrap was so filling that I saved half of it to eat later that day.

We also enjoyed shave ice from Wishing Well Shave Ice (notice there is no “d” in shave). They offer organic syrups and are very generous with their flavors. If you have never had shave ice before, it is created by shaving a block of ice. Unlike snow cones, which are course, shave ice is very fine and melts easily in your mouth. There are many options for flavors and toppings and some places serve it over ice cream. This treat can be very refreshing on a hot day. As I mentioned before, this place was very generous with their syrup, which melted the shave ice faster than I could eat it on a hot afternoon. Wishing Well Shave Ice is also very popular.

Budget Food in Kapa’a

Kapa’a is located on the east side of the island and it is the one place where you are likely to run into a traffic jam on your way up to Princeville from the airport. My favorite place to eat in this beachside town is Tiki Taco. It is located in a small shopping mall along the main route through town. The prices here are great and so is the friendly service. I had a delicious fish taco and it only cost $7. It was served in a fresh homemade tortilla with local fish, shredded cabbage and a delicious sauce. I added their special hot sauce and it was totally TBO (tastebud orgasm)!!!

After lunch we headed up the road to Kauai Juice Co. It is located off the main drag on the north end of Kapa’a behind Java Kai near Kukui Street. My daughter was feeling a touch of a cold coming on so we stopped in for a shot of their famous “Ginger Snap” to boost her immunity system. This drink has a real kick to it that delightfully burns your throat as it is going down. The ladies who run this shop were super enthusiastic and gave us a bonus shot of a dark green drink that they said, “tastes like swamp water.” Now who would refuse such an offer... lol.     

  Photography by Paul Garrett

Photography by Paul Garrett

Budget Food in Lihui

As I mentioned in my previous blog, there is a Costco on the west side of Lihui close to Highway 50 and the Kukui Grove Shopping Center. This is a great place to load up on affordable food supplies and beverages (including wine, beer and hard alcohol). It’s also home to one of the biggest food bargains on the island, their freshly baked 18 inch pizzas for around $11. This pizza is so large and filling that it provided three meals for us. There is also a Walmart in Lihui where you can buy flip-flops (Locals is our favorite brand), sunblock and food basics for cheap. Note that Hawaii is banning the use of certain sunblocks to protect the coral reefs from toxic chemicals. This is why it is a good idea to buy your sunblock on the island when you arrive. Also beware that the sun is very strong in Hawaii. Protect your skin and be patient. It takes several days for your suntan to show up. We used Hawaiian Tropic with an SPF of 30 most of the time and did not burn our skin.

Shave Ice in Lawai

On the south side of the island we indulged in more shave ice. On the way to Poipu we made a side trip to the small town of Lawai to check out The Fresh Shave. This place had to be designed with Instagram in mind with its cute hipster trailer and mustache theme. The Fresh Shave offers organic flavors and local ingredients. I enjoyed The Fu Manchu, which is flavored with strawberry, banana and cream. The banana bits on the top were a nice touch, but the strawberry syrup only made it halfway down into the ice. A little more syrup and this would have been perfect. And for all of you Oregon Ducks fans, I was told that the owners of The Fresh Shave went to the University of Oregon.

  Photography by Paul Garrett

Photography by Paul Garrett

Shave Ice in Waimea

By now you must think that I am crazy for shave ice… but after an adventure up to Waimea Canyon, you too will be ready for a cold treat to cool you down. JoJo’s Shave Ice in the town of Waimea is top rated on this island. They have tons of flavors and their servings are HUGE. Two people could split their smallest offering, and then there is the Big Kahuna, which is around 40 ounces. What I enjoyed most is the macadamia nut ice cream that you can get in the bottom of your cup. It is a delightfully creamy and nutty treat by the time you consume the giant mound of shave ice on top of it. This place is super popular with families. Especially with their keikis (kids).

  PHotography by Paul Garrett

PHotography by Paul Garrett

Special Places and Activities

In addition to visiting beaches, boat and helicopter tours of the Na Pali Coast are very popular. I have yet to do a helicopter tour, but it is on my bucket list for a future visit.

  Photography by Paul Garrett

Photography by Paul Garrett

When it comes to boat tours, there are many options. We chose to sail with Capt Andy’s out of Port Allen on the southwest side of the island. Their catamaran’s are spacious and their crews are super friendly. If you take a morning tour, you will also be treated to breakfast, lunch and an ample supply of wine and beer. During our sailing adventure we encountered several pods of spinner dolphins that swam just feet away from us at the bow of the boat. This was completely awesome! We also saw sea turtles and plenty of fish when we stopped to go snorkeling.

  Photography on an Iphone by Paul Garrett

Photography on an Iphone by Paul Garrett

Waimea Canyon

After sailing, we drove up to Waimea Canyon. Waimea Canyon is known as the Grand Canyon of the Pacific and you will agree that it has earned this title. There are multiple places to pull off the main road and view the canyon from different perspectives.

  Photography of Waimea Canyon by Paul Garrett

Photography of Waimea Canyon by Paul Garrett

Kalalau Lookout

Continuing up the road, we stopped at the Kalalau Lookout. This is one of the most amazing views that you will find on the island as you look out over the lush valley below down to the ocean and up at the towering green cliffs of the Na Pali Coast. To the left of the fenced viewing area is the unofficial trailhead for a potentially dangerous trail that goes along a ridgeline. This trail can be muddy and slippery. It is also dangerous in places and is not a good idea to attempt if you are afraid of heights. There are great views along this trail, but attempt it at your own risk.

  PHotography of The Kalalau Lookout  by Paul Garrett

PHotography of The Kalalau Lookout  by Paul Garrett

There are a lot of other trails in this area for intrepid hikers. I recommend that you bring a good pair of hiking boots if hiking is going to be one of your major activities. I wore my Nike running shoes and they did not give me a good enough grip on these slippery trails. I also recommend that you pick up a copy of The Ultimate Kauai Guide Book. It not only reveals great places to hike, it is the most comprehensive guidebook that I have found for Kauai.

Aloha Also Means Goodbye

Saying goodbye to Hawaii is never easy. I always wish that I could stay longer or visit another island or two while I am there. Like I mentioned at the beginning, each island is unique and special. If you love to hike, explore beaches or just chill out, Kauai may be the perfect island for you. It is also possible to keep the price of your trip down by dining at food carts for lunch and by preparing dinner in your condo. There is a really great Foodland grocery store in Princeville that has a nice deli and really decent prices for being in such an upscale community. Also make sure that you buy gas at Costco if you want the best price on the island. 

The spirit of Aloha is alive and well on the the Island of Kauai. The people are so friendly and they really made us feel at home. Let me know if you have any questions about Kauai, or any of the other Hawaiian Islands. Also be sure to hit the “Likes” button below if you found this post to be helpful.

Aloha,

Paul


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A Message to the Graduates of 2018

My How Time Flies

It seems like yesterday that my first born, my baby girl Morgan was born. Each stage and every year of her life has truly been a gift. From watching her take her first steps, to hearing her sweet giggle, then experiencing her emotional and academic struggles and celebrating her award winning talents. I cannot believe this day is here already. Today is the start of a new chapter in our lives. Morgan, and all of those who graduate this year, now has the foundation and the wings to soar. I have no doubt that she will accomplish all of her dreams.

  Morgan has wanted to become a Vet her whole life and now the journey begins.

Morgan has wanted to become a Vet her whole life and now the journey begins.

Without Change We Would Remain Stagnant

Big events have a tendency to draw a lot of emotions to the surface. Please allow yourself to feel anything that may arise. It is OK to feel sad, fearful, happy, excited and to experience any other emotion. I am personnally proud, happy, nervous, excited and a bit anxious about letting my daughter, and frankly my best friend go. But, I know it is best for her. Change is scary, but look at this as an evolution. Without change and growth we would become stagnant and die either spiritually or physically. Thankfully Morgan will be attending U.K. this year, which is only an hour and a half south. Yes I will make a few visits to share some laughter and love, but I also look forward to her trips home for holidays and long weekends, and now I can look at the moments that we spend together as special gifts of time. 

  I love this group of fine young men and women and look forward to watching them soar.

I love this group of fine young men and women and look forward to watching them soar.

Oh The Places You'll Go

Let the adventures begin! All things are possible when we believe. My message to the graduates of 2018 is dream big, work hard, and never give up! Your moms, dads and friends are only a call away. This is a big change in your life. Practice the pause and breathe when you are stressed, never be afraid to say no to things you are not comfortable with, and also say yes to new experiences that will help you grow. We teeter in life on a line between needing challenges that help us grow and needing to stay safe. Step outside of your comfort zone occasionally throughout life and say yes to positive challenges. You have got this and we are here to support this great journey!

Love & Light,

Libby

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Coming up next week on Total Soulful Journey, Paul will give you a vacationer's overview of Hawaii and insider tips on what to do and where to eat on the beautiful island of Kauai. If you've ever dreamed of visiting Hawaii, you will want to read this blog!


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5 Vital Tips for Feeling More Energetic

5 Vital Tips for Feeling More Energetic

The average American gets around 6.8 hours of sleep each night, when the ideal amount is around 8 hours. Our bodies need sleep in order to heal and regenerate. Our brains also need time out to process information and to rest. If we continually deprive ourselves of sleep, our bodies and our minds are not able to function at their maximum potential and eventually we get into the habit of being tired throughout much of the day. If you want to feel more energetic, make it a habit of getting around eight hours of sleep each night. Not only will you be able to think more clearly and creatively, you will also be healthier.

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